This is going to be a long read. Arguments will not be logical and I don't recommend trying this at home.
The reason I started exploring this area is because up until now, I didn't have any goals in my life.
I had dreams. Big vague dreams about a colourful future. Without goals, I had no direction in my life. I didn't, others did. I wouldn't be the man that I am if it wasn't for the grand plans of everyone else. I mean how often do you sit down and have a serious talk with yourself about what you really want to achieve in life? If that doesn't ring any bells, do you even stop to consider this question; Are the things that I 'achieved' in my life really the things that I wanted for myself? Do these things make me happy?